Monday, October 22, 2007

First weekend

Thanks to the Salute to Heroes program, the girls and I spent our first weekend without Hubs in Virginia. We took advantage of the free park admission and went to Busch Gardens Williamsburg Saturday afternoon. My sister suggested the trip some time ago. I knew she was bringing her family and the girls were SO excited to see their aunt, uncle and cousins. Additionally, good friends live in the area and we were able to stay with them. The girls loved getting to play with Mr. M and their dog. Plus, Miss T even gave up her day and went to the park with us. Thank God she did, too! I'm not sure how I would have handled a 7 year old and a 3 year old (sans nap) without her. It was much more crowded than we'd expected, but the girls seemed to have a good time. And honestly, that's all I wanted from this first weekend without Daddy: for them to have a good weekend with plenty of diversions.

I was torn about this weekend. I'd started planning it just before Hubs left. I was trying to finalize plans the day after he left when I learned that his great-uncle had passed away. I still don't know if I did the right thing or not. I sent flowers but opted not to take the girls to the funeral, and followed the original plan for the weekend. While I felt an obligation to be there for Hubs' family, I felt an even deeper obligation to the girls. What would you have done?


rose_michelle said...

Sounds like an eventful trip! I wouldn't worry about missing the funeral. I'm sure his family understands that you don't want to associate daddy leaving with more bad things. I'm sure they appreciate the flowers and care for the girls' wellbeing as well. Chin up, your on the count down to the end now.

Meredith said...

I agree with your choice. (not that there is a right or wrong on that one)

I'm of the mindset that kids and funerals should not mix in *most* cases. And in your case the weekend was more significant than 99% of all weekends. I'm sure hubby's family understood.

Shannon said...

I think you made the right choice. I would have done the same thing.

Stephanie said...

I'd have done the same thing too.

I'm glad you were able to enjoy your weekend with the girls!

Waitress Polly said...

This is an interesting blog, and I came here through PLAWife.
Sounds like a great weekend. Can't wait to hear more about your experiences in South Korea.